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Evening everyone.

Here is yet another organization tip for you to try .

  Sample       Job and activities Planner

High Priority	Medium Priority	Low Priority
Pay Gas bill this week	Phone Friend to arrange a date to meetup	Information for trip next year
Ask boss for time off next week .	Get documents ready for meeting next week
Check that I have got all documents ready for meeting  tomorroew
Use this template to help you priorites any Jobs or activites that you want to do. As you work though the priorites you will find that you will be moving some of the tasks above between the three priorities. Ie something that is in the medium section may now become high priority. I have done a few so you can see what sort of things you would put on the list.

  

Please let me know if this templete works for you andplease remember to include the activities into your day planner.

Regards 

Christine McLanachan 

An ADHD poem

The poem below was first read to me by a friend that said that she thought of me when she read it . I would like to share it with anyone who has children of school age. 
  
ADHD THE PLAY GROUND POEM
This poem was written by Linda Hurley and appears in “What is ADHD” a useful booklet written and published by Mandy Burke of Future Awareness Through Education. The message for all of us who support children with special needs is how we need to be aware of the support a whole family needs if their child is to be successful. Understanding of other children, their parents and the teachers is part of the package children need. Adjustments and understanding must start from the knowledge that ‘being like others’ may not be achieved. However, with adjustments and understanding and enjoyable life can be achieved.

I stand alone in the playground
No one talks to me
I see the looks, and hear their whispers;
She’s the mother of the ‘little beast’
The boy who can’t sit still in the classroom
The one that fools around
The child who torments others
And throws himself to the ground.

She must be a useless parent
No control or restraint
We’ll go and see the headmistress
And make a formal complaint.
We want the ‘looney’ expelled
You know the one we mean
The boy who runs around the playground
As if driven by a machine.
Who send the other children flying
Cuts and bruises everywhere
Get rid of the little menace
How you do it, we don’t care.

The ‘brat’ whose been banned at lunchtime
The boy who has no friends
The boy whose never invited to parties
And Christmas cards – not one was sent.
The child who cries because he’s a loner
Through no choice of his own
Who struggles in the classroom
And is made to sit alone.

The boy who lags behind
As hard as he may try
Who at the age of seven
Can barely read and write
And so I continue to stand alone
No one talks to me
The mother of a little boy
Who’s been diagnosed with ADHD

People in all sectors of the community should think before they judge

Thank you 

Christine McLanachan   

new page has been set up

Here is the first of many pieces of information that I hope to have for you all , these will be posted into our events and articles page.    

by DR CHARLES PARKER on JULY 22, 2012 · 0 COMMENTS

http://www.corepsychblog.com/2012/07/adhd-insights/

Many thanks

Christine McLanachan

Dear all
I just wanted to share this story with you it is from one of my clients that I coached many years ago he sent me this so I could pass it on to anyone who perhaps has  lived a similar story.

How drug's consumed my life

My name is Phil I am 32 years old,I was diagnosed with ADHD and Dyslexia a few years ago and When I push the rewind button on my life it all becomes clearer. As a child at school I would watch my classmates writing and think "why do I feel so different". I would look at the empty page and wonder, what I was supposed to be doing.

I would get in trouble for not listening or doing any work told to sit still and stop fidgeting. Secondary school was even worse, lots of different classroom, teachers,not remembering  what lesson I had next, taking the right books, pens and remembering p.e. Kits etc was all beyond me.

I felt nobody know what I was feeling in side.I become the class clown which was a big cover up for the way I was feeling. I was 13, could barely read or write, I could not even tell the time, did not understand most of the math's techniques used, I new that I was not stupid if anything I was cleverer in many way's.

I'd play up in class and get thrown-out in order to avoid having to read.
I would wag the lessons I found most difficult, "I hated school and couldn't wait to leave ".
I was always in trouble and got the blame for everything whether it was me or not, my nickname was the trouble magnet. I eventually left school and thought it would be great, little did I know that things would become much worse.

I constantly felt bored with everything I did, I always felt like a caged lion pacing a round not able to get satisfaction or contentment from anything. I never felt relaxed, I would flit from job-to-job because I'd get bored or get the sack anyway, time past and I ended up one the dole.

I met some new mates how invited me round to there gaff, when I got there they were all smoking a draw and offered me some, so I tried it, it was a wicked feeling, the discontentment and boredom was gone. OK, at first it made me as sick as a dog, but I could still feel the effects.

I couldn't believe it I could sit and watch a film, have a deep conversation without getting bored and best of all I could chill-out and relax for the first time in my life.

Years past still on the draw I now lived with my girlfriend and my 5-year-old child. If I had a job to go to and felt a bit rough from being stoned the night before I'd nick a wiz to get me through the day.
Life for me and my girlfriend felt so down we'd even spent our child's birthday money on drugs.

The house was full of people smoking bong's and joints,our home was no fit place for a child. We had no patience or time for the child; we were to busy getting stoned.
The relationship between my partner and me had been over for a few years, I knew the only way to give-up the draw and wiz was to leave.

I want to live at my parent's house; it was pretty lonely, as my social life was gone. My ex mates were still draw-hands and weren't interested in me, as I was now a straight- head. Months of depression past, I was completely free of the need of a joint or a wiz.

I got a job and life was sweet. I eventually met a woman who fully understood me, we were best friends. Life was great and my new girlfriend taught me to read and write she got me see a psychiatrist because I was so hyperactive with concentration and impulse difficulties.

The psychiatrist diagnosed me as having A.D.H.D AND DYSLEXIA I felt I had the answer for a lot of my difficulties.After several appointments I stared on medication (DEXANPHETAMINE) which worked well until I felt a bit low and decided I would take a few more that day, before I new it I was taking them like smarties.

To me it felt like taking a wiz again, before I new it I was taking wiz and smoking a draw. I felt my life had spiralled out of control. My girlfriend tried to help me but I felt I could not help myself and she left.
My life at that time was hell-on-earth I had nothing, no house .No money, no possessions as I had sold all my descent stuff to get a draw or wiz. I went as far as turning to crime and ended up inside.
After serving my time I rejoined the world. I no longer use drugs and life continues with its ups and downs. I've lost my girlfriend although she still gives me support.

I feel I've finally seen a light at the end of the tunnel,  I've taken my time to get there, but I have really learnt by my mistakes. I decided to get professional help through coaching and learn to manage and except my A.D.H.D. Medication is not for me.

I would like to say to anyone who can relate to my life, " I wish you all the very best with your future", if you have are reading this story now I know you will receive the best help and support you can possibly get.

Phil

Hi Everyone 


I just want to say good bye to a young lady that I have been coaching for the past year,  She is off to India and then on to do her masters degree. I would like her to know how proud I am of her , she has taken each and every technique on board and worked with herself to make the changes that where needed in order to change the way she was dealing with university and personnel life. 


I am sure that you will succeed in what ever profession  you decide to focus your skills in, You have some wonderful ideas , believe in your own abilities and your new found skill's let them be your guild to your future


My very best wishes


Christine McLanachan 
ADHD / Aspergers Syndrome life skills coach & trainer

Hi Everyone , I am going to be starting giving out different tips that will help you to start to organize your life. The first Tip I want to pass to you is this 

Planning 
Planning is the bases to any organizing, without planning nothing is achieved. I have a number of templates that my clients use to assist in the planning stage. Planning gives you the  framework to action and implement each task so what ever you are trying to organize can be achieved. 


 Pre-planner for Projects

      What is the name of  project ( what are you organizing )

      What materials will be needed to complete the project 

      What will be the time scale 

      What will be the first stage of this project? 

      When will the start date be. 

      What will the next stage be? 

      Review what you have done so far.

      Middle stage

      Review what has been done so far

      Next stage

Carry on following these steps until you have organized and achieved what you set out to achieve.

Keep looking out for other tips that I am going to give you so you can start to make the changes that will bring organisation to your life. 

Good luck  

Chris, ADHD / Aspergers life skills Coach     

 

Evening everyone I have just been sent this by a client, if you are interested in Autism in adults then please click on the link    http://www.dh.gov.uk/health/2011/12/adult-autism-exercise/  Let us hope that this is the beginning of other development disorders affecting Adults that will be looked at.

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Thank you so much for your time 


Christine McLanachan 

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Hi all just wanted to share something with you , it is my birthday today and I have had a wonderful day, It started with some lovely cards off hubby,son , sister , brother and mother. My sister got me some lovely flowers, my hubby got me a watch to wear when we are walking and a step counter for when we are out or I am walking with our dogs Jack and Dan, my son got me a united clock which I will treasure. To top this day off we spent the whole day walking in Rivington and for the first time I made it up to the pike. Thank you all for making this a brilliant birthday.

I go to thinking whilst I was up at the pike why the country has such a big full for me and other ADHD people I feel that it is the fact that you pit yourself against nature and is a throw back to the times when you had to go out to catch dinner. hinting for meat must of taken great skill. just a thought

Have a great weekend

Christine